Hello I'm New.

[SeaAngel]

Hello my name is Melanie and i'm an alco... oh wait, no I'm trying to quit smoking..  I smoked 2 yesterday and 2 so far today.  At the same time I am on a protein diet.   At this moment I know it is nobody's fault but mine, that I have smoked for over 31 years.   But  right now I hate everone, just for breathing.  I keep this to myself, but I want to scream.   Nice to meet all of you.  I'm usually very nice, just not today.  Please forgive.  I am taking welbutrin, been on it for 3 weeks now.   Any advice? 

[FlatironMike]

to AS3, Melanie and pull up a chair.  Take some time and read through some of the posts here and you will start learning what steps you need to be taking to get smober.  Usually I first off recommend you take some time and look through our FAQs which are kept at www.quitbuddies.org, our unofficial website.  The FAQs are full of helpful information on how to get and stay smober and links to many other sites for information as well.  Have you decided that the two you smoked today are your last?  If so, get yourself a meter so you can start tracking your smober time as well as how many sickerettes you are not smoking and how much you are saving.  Do you have a list of reasons why you are chosing to get smober now?  What other tools besides wellbutrim are you using to work on your quit?

Do write back and share with us as getting smober is the best gift you can give yourself.

FlatironMike

[mariannaquits]

Welcome Melanie!  I'm sort of a newbie here...26 days.  I would suggest choosing a quit date if you haven't already.  Then just take the plunge and throw all your smokes and lighters out.  It's not pretty those first few days/weeks, but maybe it will be easier with Wellbutrin.  Read and post here at least once a day and try to have some ideas for distracting yourself ready.  I liked sudoku, naps, reading quitbuddies.org and cognitivequitting.com, walking my dogs, playing with my kids, etc.  You can do this and we will help if you post here and let us know how you're doing. 

[BessieBee]

  , Melanie!!  You've found the best place to help you on your journey to become smober.  While it's not required it's highly recommended that you post here at least daily as you get your quit started.  And don't worry about your mood!  We've seen it all here, AND we've all been through it.  There's nothing you can tell us that we haven't seen, heard or done.  Although I haven't seen one for awhile it's perfectly acceptable around here to post a rant where you let it all out.  and I do mean ALL.  There's a real good chance we'll rate your rant.  Used to be rants were based on the amount of profanity in them, but I think now things may have become a bit more genteel, but you're still free to rant away with whatever words or thoughts you need to spew.

Please spend some time at QuitBuddies.org, our official unofficial web site.  There you'll find into on the BDU (Body Disposal Unit) - a tool that may be very useful for anyone that gets in your way.

Marianna:  I can't tell you how tickled I am to see a relative newbie posting here to help an even newbier.  (sorry for the technical talk).  It just helps to show how cohesive this group can be and how important it can be to so many people.   

[DavidL]

Hello my name is Melanie and i'm an alco... oh wait, no I'm trying to quit smoking..  I smoked 2 yesterday and 2 so far today.  At the same time I am on a protein diet.   At this moment I know it is nobody's fault but mine, that I have smoked for over 31 years.   But  right now I hate everone, just for breathing.  I keep this to myself, but I want to scream.   Nice to meet all of you.  I'm usually very nice, just not today.  Please forgive.  I am taking welbutrin, been on it for 3 weeks now.   Any advice? 

Welcome.....   Everytime you wanna smoke, come here and read 5 posts, and post one yourself.

[BessieBee]

I forgot to add in my first post:  My advice:  pick a quit date.  Make it very soon.  When your quit date arrives get rid of every single thing you have related to smoking:  all stink sticks, all ashtrays, all lighters.  Then, clean out your car.  Dump all ashtrays and if you can do it have your car detailed.

Get yourself a quit meter.  Post it here often and enjoy it yourself as your quit days increase and so does the $$ amount saved.

The one thing that I think helped me the most (and I quit a 35 year, 3 pack/day habit) was to tell everyone I'd quit.  And I mean everyone.  I even talked to the people in line with me at the grocery.  I knew I had to make myself accountable and I never wanted to have to admit defeat to everyone i saw.

Last, but certainly not least: after you've been quit for a few days (I mean completely quit - not 2/day.  You can't quit and smoke.) go to the grocery and take a leisurely stroll through the produce section, especially the citrus fruits.  What a glorious aroma!!  Also take a stroll through a flower store.  Wow!!  They really smell good!  Before I quit I thought flowers were just for the visual accent.  Now I know better!

Pick a quit date that's very soon.  What you're doing now is what I call the torture method.  Just quit and be done with it.  Then put on your seatbelt and hang on tight!   

[Wayne Baker]

Yay!!!!  Fresh Meat!!!  J/K.

Welcome to the best quit smoking support group in the world Melanie!!!

Best advice I can hand out is get in here daily...read the posts...make a post.  Tell the group what's going on with you and make yourself accountable to the group.  There's not much chance you'll encounter anything with your quit that someone else has not experienced before.

Good to have you here.

WayneB

[mariannaquits]

Marianna:  I can't tell you how tickled I am to see a relative newbie posting here to help an even newbier.  (sorry for the technical talk).  It just helps to show how cohesive this group can be and how important it can be to so many people.   

Thanks Bessie!  I'm so thrilled that I am a quitter, and this quit is like no other...it's the one that's gonna stick!  I want everyone to quit smoking with me and enjoy the freedom!  Even though those first few weeks were really tough, I wouldn't trade it for anything. I would also love to see my name move down the list.   

Melanie- Pick a date and do it!  It will be tough but you won't regret it!

[SteveS]

Welcome to the group.  You've gotten a bunch of good advice already... set a quit date and read here hourly if need be.
You can do this.  We can help.

[SeaAngel]

OK I would like to say a few things. Just being honest here. If you are reading this, Ty for letting me say a few things.   Here go.    PLEASE DONT BE OFFENDED!

I was so encouraged by all the things you said to me yesterday.
 First I was pissed, lol
 "Flatiron"  -- I was real proud of only smoking 2 cigs the day before. Mad at the suggestion that they should be my last. 

"Wayne"  why make myself accountable?   thought who do you think you are...

"Bessie Bee"  I am so scared to have to admit that I might fail at this.     

I thought all those hard things and I am so sorry. I was in such a bad mood yesterday.  I am telling you all this, so you know how much I appreciated what you said.   You said the right things. You made me think.       I AM SO GREATFUL, THANKYOU!!!!!!   Needed some words to chew on. 

thanks to David L, and Steve S.    all who gave words of encouragement.  So please forgive me for thinking bad of you all for a stupid addict moment. lol

Here is what I did.  I chose my date.   today first day of spring.  although i have not had a cig since 5:pm yesterday.    I figured my gift to myself was choosing this day.  "figured i had that right"

Thank you so very much for being there for a stranger.  Thanks again.   Hope you all forgive my mean thoughts.



 

[Wayne Baker]

Never worry about the thoughts...before its all over you might have some really wicked ones and be screaming for our BDU (Body Disposal Unit).  There will be a lot of wonderful moments too and, eventually, those bad moments just fade away.

You selected a quit day meaningful to you and you've done some mauling over of ideas.  Good for you.  You're on your way and here's cheering for you every step of the way.

WayneB

[SeaAngel]

yeah um where is the rant page at? please where, the damn quit buddies page is messing up. i cant even get to a chat room.  keep getting chiropractor site.  not trying to bug people really, just want to figure this crap out.   please ?

[mariannaquits]

Don't worry about being mad, even if it's at us!  We just want to help and you can take what you want and leave the rest.  Congratulations on choosing a quit date!  I too decided I wanted to quit and chose the following day as my quit date.  These first few days might seem like the longest days of your life but you can do this!

Let us know how it goes!

[BessieBee]

Thank you so very much for being there for a stranger.  Thanks again.   Hope you all forgive my mean thoughts. 

There's nothing to forgive, Melanie.  We've all "been there done that."  In my case there are several people still walking around that are fortunate I didn't have to call the BDU for them.    

This will sound trite.... but.... there really are no strangers here.  We're all addicts.  We're all in varying stages of conquering that addiction. 

Please continue to post - at least daily.  There were times early in my quit when i'd check the group continually, always looking for a new post.  This group was HUGE in my early quit and is still a place I consider a cyber home.

Have you found a meter yet?

[SeaAngel]

yeah i got a meter im at work and i feel like crying, cant stand this CANT FIND THE RANT PAGE